Why We Stay Stuck (Even When We Try to Change)

So how many of us made New Year's goals with the high hopes that this would finally be the year things changed…

We bought the planner, made the list of to-dos, and even started doing all the things.

Now that it is the middle of March, how is it going?

The majority of us find that despite our best efforts, we have reverted back to our normal patterns.

This is not laziness. Most of the time our life circumstances haven't changed, and when we try to create different results by only changing our actions, it rarely lasts.

Did that just trigger the thought…

“Wait, are you telling me I am never going to lose weight? Ugh…”

No.

What I am saying is that real change begins with becoming aware of the patterns running your life and releasing the emotional weight that keeps those patterns in place.

Why We Feel Stuck

Finding efficiency in life is what a mom does.

We find what works with the least amount of resistance and do that over and over again.

Life happens, and circumstances are usually the same day to day.

Go to work.
Clean the house.
Do the laundry.
Take care of the kids.
Make sure everyone is fed every day.

How we choose to think about these circumstances creates how we feel about them.

Those emotions then drive the actions we take, which ultimately create the results we get in life.

The problem arises when we fall into patterns that keep us stuck and unable to move forward.

Taking a step back and becoming aware of our patterns is the first step.

We must know where we are and how we are showing up before we can decide if those patterns are serving us.

Just like our New Year’s goals, most people try to simply change their actions. But real change starts with awareness of our thoughts and emotions before the action even happens.

My challenge to you is simple.

Sit with yourself without judgment and ask yourself these questions:

• Where do I feel stuck?
  
  
• What in my life currently feels overwhelming?
  
  
• What are my thoughts about this situation?
  
  
• How do those thoughts make me feel each day?
  
  
• How do I respond when I feel that way?
  
  
• What results are those patterns creating in my life?
  
  

But your job is not done here.

Awareness alone doesn’t create change if we are still carrying emotional stress and stored reactions in our body.

Emotional Weight & Stress Patterns

Do you ever feel like life just feels heavy?

You are doing the same things you have always done, but somehow everything feels harder.

Life brings us all kinds of experiences, and with those experiences comes a wide range of emotions.

Happy emotions create a high vibration throughout our bodies.

Negative emotions create a lower vibration. And we all know that grief, sadness, pain, and disappointment don’t feel good.

Sometimes when difficult emotions show up, we choose not to feel them.

Instead of processing them, we push them down.

Trauma, shock, pain, and disappointment can sometimes be more than we can process all at once.

So our bodies store them.

Over time, this stored emotion becomes the emotional weight that so many of us carry every single day.

Ask yourself:

• Do I feel emotionally heavy in my body?
  
  
• Have I had life experiences where I wasn’t able to fully process the emotions?
  
  

Just like we create efficiency patterns in life, we also create emotional response patterns.

When stressful situations happen, many of our reactions become automatic.

We shut down.
We withdraw.
We react with anger or overwhelm.

These patterns are learned responses, not personal failures.

But again, awareness is the key before any change can happen.

Here are a few more questions you can explore:

• What situations trigger strong emotions for me?
  
  
• What thoughts happen right before I feel stress or overwhelm?
  
  
• What emotions do I experience most often?
  
  
• How do I cope when I feel overwhelmed?
  
  
• What long-term impact are these reactions creating in my life?
  
  

Once we become aware of the emotional buildup we are carrying and the patterns we have developed, we can finally begin to change them.

For me, the most effective way I have found to release emotional buildup is through energy work.

Once that emotional weight is cleared, we can begin shifting our mindset and choosing how we want to respond to life moving forward.

My First Experience With Energy Work

Becoming aware that we are stuck in patterns — and that we carry emotional buildup from life’s trials — can be incredibly freeing.

Years ago, I was a wife and a mother of three busy boys.

I had just gotten pregnant and was simply living the day-to-day routine of life.

Then life gave me an unexpected trial.

I experienced a very difficult miscarriage.

Six weeks later, my father passed away.

The emotions were overwhelming, but life keeps moving forward whether you are ready for it or not.

I grieved the best I could and eventually fell back into my Type A habits of making lists and focusing on efficiency.

But the truth was… I was stuck.

Life felt heavy.

That is when I saw Heidi.

It was a simple hour-long phone call.

She guided me through identifying the emotions I was carrying, validating them, releasing them, and then adding positive affirmations for how I wanted to feel moving forward.

This was my first experience with energy work.

And I remember feeling lighter.

Releasing that emotional buildup gave me the capacity to reflect on my life patterns and begin moving forward again.

Why I Do This Work Today

Over the years I have had many life-changing experiences through energy work.

That is why I trained and became a Simply Align Energy Work Practitioner and Life Coach.

It has become my mission to help women who feel stuck in the heaviness of life lighten their emotional load, shift their mindset, and move forward creating the life they truly want.

When Life Feels Heavy

Sometimes we simply need to release the emotional weight we are carrying.

I work with women one-on-one in energy work sessions designed to help you become balanced again when life feels overwhelming.

These sessions are done online or over the phone.

Energy work is not talk therapy, so there is no need to go into deep detail about your experiences if you don’t want to.

Instead, we focus on gently shifting the energy behind what you are experiencing so your mind and body can release what is no longer serving you.

During the session we focus on:

• Releasing emotional buildup
  
  
• Clearing limiting beliefs
  
  
• Balancing your energy systems
  
  
• Supporting your body’s natural balance
  
  

Most women leave the session feeling lighter, clearer, and more aligned with themselves.

If that’s the case, I would love to support you in a 1:1 energy work session where we gently release the emotional weight you’ve been carrying so you can feel balanced again.

If You’re Ready for Deeper Change

If you feel drawn to the idea of releasing emotional buildup but also want to shift your mindset and intentionally create the life you want…

I created my 12-week Becoming Her program.

This program dives deeper into different areas of your life.

Together we uncover what may not be serving you, clear emotional buildup or limiting beliefs, and build new patterns that allow you to move forward with intention.

We didn’t get to where we are in a single day.

So lasting change rarely happens in just one session.

Week by week we uncover, clear, and rebuild so you can confidently step into the life you want.

My Intention for You Today

My intention is simply to help you in some way today.

Maybe that means using these questions as journal prompts to explore where you currently are in life.

Maybe it means recognizing emotional patterns you hadn’t noticed before.

Or maybe — like I once did — you simply feel emotionally overloaded and need support releasing that weight.

If that’s the case, I would love to support you in a 1:1 energy work session where we gently release the emotional weight you’ve been carrying so you can feel balanced again.

And if something inside you is saying it’s time not only to release the past but also to step fully into the life you are meant to live…

I invite you to schedule a discovery call for the Becoming Her program, where we will explore what is keeping you stuck and map out the next steps toward the life you truly want.

Ready to feel lighter and more aligned?

Click HERE to schedule your 1:1 Elevate Your Energy Session 

or 

Click HERE to book a discovery call for Becoming Her